Friday, September 07, 2007

Temanku Suami Orang

So, what do you think of married men?

I have been having this secret crush with one of the bosses here in my company. He's handsome, intelligent yet very young. What more can you ask for.

It made you wonder what he's like when he was young. If you knew him then, would you have done something about it?

So, what is it about married men that turn people on?

Good friend of mine, AS was involved with a married man once. She was on verge of breakdown, and had loose all interest to live. Then came this guy into the picture. This is guy is the type who would slide notes under your papers, who would text you those romantic words, the one who wouldn't turn up to the office as he couldn't bear not having the sight of you at the workstation. Married man easily turns you on, as they know how best to treat you.

Another good friend YK IS having a relationship with a married man. The feeling is mutual. Maybe because she's very successful now and her fiancĂ©e stupidly broke off the engagement, that she hasn’t found any interesting single guys. Why bother having another painful break up when you do have a guy who knows how to treat you right, and make you FEEL right?

So, the situation has not been very promising for these people. Would I succumb to the same path, God forbid!

While I would have crush here and there, I couldn’t imagine myself sharing the same guy, ever! But what would happen if I do? It’s complicated & hard, being in the position that I am now.

But A is still an option to explore, and B would be one of the top priority :p

12 comments:

dA said...

my sister had too many stories too share on this topic, since she has friends getting involved in married men all the time. one thing for sure, they don't always want to marry you. you will just be a fun thing outside his marriage. and whatever bad things he says about the wife, wont probably be true. she's put all this into my head, that i ran away this one time when i knew that the guy that i liked was already married!

Suhana Sidik said...

True. But, married men always have the advantage that they know what women always wanted. But these kind of things are temporary, cause later you'll know that it never last. They are not sincere at all!

So, ied, when are we getting married to a bachelor? Hahaha...

thedreamer said...
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thedreamer said...

Getting involved with a man who is binded by law and religion to another woman is NOT a desired position for one. It is hard and painful.

To be wholly in love with a man who one can't give back the same amount.To know that those loving words he profess are the same words he will say to another woman. To look into his eyes and realized you're not the only one he's looking after.To understand your position and thus control your expectations in the relationship.

This dance of young single women and both young and old married men has been swirling in every society for ages. Stigmas has been established. The men will forever be the horny one, the wife is the victim and the other woman will be labelled as a home-wrecker gold-digging bitch (this given only if the man is wealthy ok?)

All sides will have their own story to tell..and it is up to 'the outsiders' to analyze and believe which one is telling the truth.Then again, who are we to judge on other people misery or happiness?

A married man once told me that we all do things for our own selfish reason. Maybe in the end, that's all the matters..our own self and no one else.

Came across the quote below some time ago, now it makes perfect sense..

"Love isn't a decision. It's a feeling. If we could decide who we loved, it would be much simplier, but much less magical."
-Trey Parker and Matt Stone, South Park, Chef Aid, 1998

what do you think?

Anonymous said...

If you're putting your life on hold for a married man, he's stolen not only your heart — he's stolen your brain!

Suhana Sidik said...

Jaded..
Lovely.. The quote make perfect sense. But only if we could decide on love, and earn the right to choose and have the benefit to earn. If 1 person is destine to another, we would never have this problem. Karma.

d-e
I would never put my life on hold for a married man (God Forbid), but those single men out there are putting my life on hold... until maybe.. i end up with a married men..

If only love is that simple

Anonymous said...

lets get married..
oh! u dont like me laa..
:(

Suhana Sidik said...

Anonymous.. bro...
You really want to get married to me? But, we fight a lot what...

Anonymous said...

was born a fighter
always fight fight fight!
sounded like cheer..
wish to be a fighter pilot
wishful thinkin
knocked silly yeah

Anonymous said...

sighh...

i am involved...
still cant believe i did...

Suhana Sidik said...

love come in the msot unpleasant way sometimes. Embrace it!

Anonymous said...

oOh my god. I am so having an affair with a married man. Seriously NEVER IN MY LIFE I THOUGHT I WOULD END UP in this situation myself!! I keep telling my girl friends they should never get involved with a married man. Even if they do, they can't expect much from the man. I used to think how horrible these girls are for stealing another women's man. But i ended up being one of these girls. I can't believe that it is quite easy and interesting to be involved with a married man. Yes they know what to say, they know what to do. One thing that attracts me most is the fact that he's quite religious. He never skips his prayers and we never had sex. We do, do other things but non-heavy stuff (if you know what i mean). He respects me just as much as i respect him. Funny thing is, he is willing to wait until we get married! He wants to marry me and take me on as a responsibility. He wants to care for me. I don't feel like a gold digger because i work for myself and so does he. We can support ourselves although he INSISTS on paying for food and my shopping when we have the chance to go out. I do feel bad about it. You see im used to pay for other people.

He never fails to go back to his wife and kids every weekend. Although now his wife feels certain that he's married with a kid(s) to another women and is dying to know who this chick is. (Mind you, me and him, not yet married. She thinks we are) All this time, i keep thinking how wrong it is to be a third-wheel. HOwever, i cant stop thinking as well if my fate is written as to be with a married man! I know everything about him and his wife. His wife is so eager to know even just my name. And he is protecting it with all his might. But seriously, i love him a lot. But HONEST, i think i still worry about what people might think of me. Gold digger, home wrecker and the list goes one.

Are there married man who are honest and sincere in loving another women? He never lied to his wife. He just lets her think what she wants to think. And doesnt answer back to any of her questions.

Right now, i just need to shake off 1 thing from my head, which is really, really bad - I keep thinking how easy it would be for me if he actually lets go of his wife. So god help me.