Women are easily hurt, so is that the reason why we get hurt many times? Is it an obvious fact that women can be taken aback over small matters? Is that the very reason why men just do not bother as much?
As much as I hate to admit it, sometimes it makes perfect 0-0 sense. That’s why sometimes men seem oblivious to the changes in women’s temperament. It’s an everyday scenario that if they tend to credit it, it would be an eventual disaster to them in the future.
And that is the very reason why women easily forgive. We are actually forgiving our own flaws.
Is that an acceptable justice to all women?
I had this thought going through my head while driving back (slowly driving back, as I am driving using a spare tire which is only competent enough to allow maximum speed of 80 km/h. Second time tayar pancit.. da…)
I am giving someone a chance, over and over again. My friend told me to get over it, as this person has yet to show his sincere level. But again, how would another girl know better. Maybe this person is just different?
I remembered how I was in the past, when I would let myself get hurt over and over again because I hate the idea of separation. For me, for whatever happens, you can always work things out. You work things out… and sometimes the things you fight about are silly things that would today make you feel immature. That’s why sometimes I wish I could go back in time and change everything.
Some people wouldn’t, I know. It’s because they are happy with their life, and the people all around them. I think I would say the same, one day, when I am truly happy. Then, I would tell other people, that I would never trade my life’s experience with anything.. ever. What I am experiencing now are just the ups and DOWNs that other normal people would.
Well, who am I to complain?
I decided I would no longer make an attempt to correct things, and to pursue something badly. Just gonna let nature takes it course. So far, it has done me well.
So, forgive or not to forgive? Miss Indelicate... You’ve been in this shoe so many times. You’ve forgiven him ALL the time. How different would it be for me to give this person a second, third or even a million zillion chance? Stop. Don’t complicate matters. Cause he’s a stranger, that’s why. I don’t even know him well enough. Da!
Then again, Mr D question this guy’s intention. Maybe, he’s not completely honest with you. If you like someone, you’d try to make it up to them one way or another. Has he done that?
Hearing this from another guy startle me. Even Mr D is not entirely convinced about this guy.
Luck is running out on this guy.
Heck, am I thinking too much? Again, woman and her many silly thoughts… realizing that I am that silly woman.
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Monday, September 24, 2007
Lelaki Itu Untuk Aku!?
Indeed an interesting article. Made me think hard... So thinking i did...
Quote of the day: THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer.EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances."
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..you can "make
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..you can "make"
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling .
Remember this always"God determines who walks into your life ,It is up to you to decide who you walk away, who you allow tostay, and who you refuse to let go. It's all in your mind to make the decision, and remember when there is opportunities, go for it and consider,And the right decision made, you will be happy forever. Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling . Remember this always "God determines who walks into your life , It is up to you to decide who you allow to walk away, who you allow to stay, and who you refuse to let go , It's all in your mind to make the decision, Pray hard and god will show you the journey , and remember when there is opportunities, go for it and consider, And the right decision made, you will be happy forever. "
Quote of the day: THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer.EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances."
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..you can "make
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..you can "make"
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling .
Remember this always"God determines who walks into your life ,It is up to you to decide who you walk away, who you allow tostay, and who you refuse to let go. It's all in your mind to make the decision, and remember when there is opportunities, go for it and consider,And the right decision made, you will be happy forever. Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling . Remember this always "God determines who walks into your life , It is up to you to decide who you allow to walk away, who you allow to stay, and who you refuse to let go , It's all in your mind to make the decision, Pray hard and god will show you the journey , and remember when there is opportunities, go for it and consider, And the right decision made, you will be happy forever. "
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Aku dalam kesakitan... Fizikal
I spent my whole day today on the bed… sleeping. Had a terrible pain in the stomach last night, one in which I thought that I seriously was having severe ‘labour-pain’. Was awaken in the middle of the night with the sharp pain, aching. Moving relentlessly for about an hour until I finally decided to call my brother to come and pick me up, and and accompany me to see the doctor at freaking 2 am.
The doctor didn’t know what was wrong, but the pain was unbearable. I took the quick-fix shot, and yeah, it was right on the ass. The pain disappear a while later, and I was able to get a good night sleep after that
Lots of thoughts coming to my head, and lots of names ran across my mind. I wish I had someone to cuddle me and say that it’s all right. I wish I could have called someone at that moment, and tell him how much pain I was in. I wish, yet my wish did not materialize.
So, how am I today? The pain is still there, but only when I move around. I can pinch my stomach, and feel a sensation of pain going straight to my head. I walk like an 80 year old, and during solat, I pray to God to take away this unbearable pain.
Well, I managed to finish reading the book by Kam Raslan, “Confession of an Old Boy”. I thought that I could learn some tips about Old Boys, but the book was purely fictional. Not much help there. Didn’t think that the book was that great either, but yeah, ‘bolehlah’. My next book would either be,”Honk if You’re Malaysian”(I am not sure why I am so much into Malaysian publication lately), or The Secret (since Da & Jaded did promote the book to me and it somehow change their life). I am not sure why I am obsessed with reading one book per week. I guess I have none better to do, and it’s just one way to keep my mind off things
I must tell you that I have started to work almost as hard as last year (where I would come weekends, and spending late nights at work), and when at home, I am now spending more time on the bed. I just got bored of the life I have now, and the guys I have been dating. Errkkk, I promise myself I won’t write about my silly relationship dilemma, but what can you do when your mind wonders incessantly?
Life and it’s complicated wonders
Still in pain.
Still having hope.
The doctor didn’t know what was wrong, but the pain was unbearable. I took the quick-fix shot, and yeah, it was right on the ass. The pain disappear a while later, and I was able to get a good night sleep after that
Lots of thoughts coming to my head, and lots of names ran across my mind. I wish I had someone to cuddle me and say that it’s all right. I wish I could have called someone at that moment, and tell him how much pain I was in. I wish, yet my wish did not materialize.
So, how am I today? The pain is still there, but only when I move around. I can pinch my stomach, and feel a sensation of pain going straight to my head. I walk like an 80 year old, and during solat, I pray to God to take away this unbearable pain.
Well, I managed to finish reading the book by Kam Raslan, “Confession of an Old Boy”. I thought that I could learn some tips about Old Boys, but the book was purely fictional. Not much help there. Didn’t think that the book was that great either, but yeah, ‘bolehlah’. My next book would either be,”Honk if You’re Malaysian”(I am not sure why I am so much into Malaysian publication lately), or The Secret (since Da & Jaded did promote the book to me and it somehow change their life). I am not sure why I am obsessed with reading one book per week. I guess I have none better to do, and it’s just one way to keep my mind off things
I must tell you that I have started to work almost as hard as last year (where I would come weekends, and spending late nights at work), and when at home, I am now spending more time on the bed. I just got bored of the life I have now, and the guys I have been dating. Errkkk, I promise myself I won’t write about my silly relationship dilemma, but what can you do when your mind wonders incessantly?
Life and it’s complicated wonders
Still in pain.
Still having hope.
Saturday, September 15, 2007
Saya orang Melayu... dan beragama Islam
I have just finished the book, I Am Muslim by Dina Zaman. It was an intriguing reading but my mind start to wander off slightly after going through ¾ of the book. Maybe I felt that there was less humour and brain-thinking put into it. But overall, it is a thumb up! You guys should definitely have a go with it.
Sa/Sa asked me this interesting question. If non-Muslim (or largely the non-Malay) converts as Muslim by pronouncing the shahadah and then implement the 5 Rukum Islam, what about us the Malays? Religion is not inherited. Are we in every way Muslim, if we never say the shahadah? At what point does Malay become a Muslim?
Interesting, right.
Dina didn’t go into too much detail about akidah, ibadah, etc. She mainly touches on Malay, non-Malay and Islam. It is sad but true to note that some Muslim would go beyond the norm using religion as an excuse, and sometimes Islam is what you see on the outside, but far from what is inside. Does how we dress dictate what religion we believe? What about those with hijab yet always longing for their same kind, the epidemic of gay guys in the country (my my, a good friend of mine is actually gay), or married guys who forces their wife to perform anal sex, or as we go deeper, what about masturbating? What big sin we see now happening in the 20th century.
Repent! Repent!
Because they do not discover religion on their own, they don’t appreciate the modesty of Islam.
Repent! Repent!
Am I a Muslim?
My first shahadah might have been when I was in the kindergarden. We were thought the simple ‘bismillah’ before we start eating, and ‘Al Fatihah’ to start off the class, and not to forget the kalimah shahadah as a devoted Muslim. It made me curiously wonder, Was I Muslim then?
Have I been a good believer? The last time I read the Quran was slightly over 3 months ago. But I do remember God a lot (especially in time of need).
Do I score bonus point? I don’t drink. I don’t swear. I talk to God a lot (especially on my misery).
So, I think I am definitely Muslim. Are you?
Sa/Sa asked me this interesting question. If non-Muslim (or largely the non-Malay) converts as Muslim by pronouncing the shahadah and then implement the 5 Rukum Islam, what about us the Malays? Religion is not inherited. Are we in every way Muslim, if we never say the shahadah? At what point does Malay become a Muslim?
Interesting, right.
Dina didn’t go into too much detail about akidah, ibadah, etc. She mainly touches on Malay, non-Malay and Islam. It is sad but true to note that some Muslim would go beyond the norm using religion as an excuse, and sometimes Islam is what you see on the outside, but far from what is inside. Does how we dress dictate what religion we believe? What about those with hijab yet always longing for their same kind, the epidemic of gay guys in the country (my my, a good friend of mine is actually gay), or married guys who forces their wife to perform anal sex, or as we go deeper, what about masturbating? What big sin we see now happening in the 20th century.
Repent! Repent!
Because they do not discover religion on their own, they don’t appreciate the modesty of Islam.
Repent! Repent!
Am I a Muslim?
My first shahadah might have been when I was in the kindergarden. We were thought the simple ‘bismillah’ before we start eating, and ‘Al Fatihah’ to start off the class, and not to forget the kalimah shahadah as a devoted Muslim. It made me curiously wonder, Was I Muslim then?
Have I been a good believer? The last time I read the Quran was slightly over 3 months ago. But I do remember God a lot (especially in time of need).
Do I score bonus point? I don’t drink. I don’t swear. I talk to God a lot (especially on my misery).
So, I think I am definitely Muslim. Are you?
Thursday, September 13, 2007
Negaraku Tanah Tumpah Darahku
I am not trying to be racist or sound too harsh on the reality of Malaysia today when we have just celebrated our 50th year of independence (whether its Malaya or Malaysia, it still is Independence Day for our nation. Why should it matter?)
Anyway, today is the start of Ramadhan. So, I woke up to the normal sahur at 5 am and watched Majalah 3 on TV3 (da!). The episode today is on the famous Tok Dalang in Kelantan, an art master for the ‘Wayang Kulit’. To date, there are 9 registered ‘Wayang Kulit’ group in Kelantan, and I am pleased to note that there is a non-Malay Tok Dalang in the group who spoke flawless Kelantanese, and look every bit Malaysian. It amazed me that there are other ethnic who appreciates the art and culture that Malaysia has.
And it reminded me to a very good friend of mine, Ey’de Lefty who is also from Kelantan. He also speak flawless Malay, and people seldom mistaken him as a Malay. We call him Aiman sometimes.
Am I being every bit racist here? So, you are Malaysian if you appreciate Malay culture, and speak Malay fluently?
I wouldn’t say that. I embrace other ethnic. I watch Chinese movies and dramas (where I can even understand Cantonese from those hours and hours of watching Chinese soaps), Hindustan 3-long hour movie, and even at one time, tried learning Mandarin. To me, I would like to proudly say that Malaysian is those who embrace other ethnic and culture, and proud to be at the very soil of Malaysia!
Have you wonder how Indonesian can be sooo.. Indonesian? Because they embrace the Indonesian culture! It doesn’t matter what race you are, Indonesian are typical Indonesin in every angle you see it.
Racist.. racist..
NOOO…
I do have this particular friend of mine back during the study days in Melbourne, who couldn’t speak any Malay or know of the Malay culture, but appreciate the little knowledge he knows of Malaysia. Having spent his whole childhood in Hong Kong doesn’t make him any less Malaysian. He could have stayed and work in Melbourne, but he wanted to come home and work in Malaysia, as he believes that there are a lot of things he can do for his proud nation. We were mentor and mentee of each other, both eager to learn about the other culture. He might not able to speak Malay, but he is Malaysian in every way.
When I went to a function in Malacca last month, we were asked to stand and sing the Negaraku. It surprised me when some could not. Maybe the famous u-tube version of Negaraku made more impact to them, as they then fallen to silent retreat.
When the minority outgrows the majority and these minorities does not appreciate Malaysia’a culture & heritage, what will the future hold for the nation?
Anyway, today is the start of Ramadhan. So, I woke up to the normal sahur at 5 am and watched Majalah 3 on TV3 (da!). The episode today is on the famous Tok Dalang in Kelantan, an art master for the ‘Wayang Kulit’. To date, there are 9 registered ‘Wayang Kulit’ group in Kelantan, and I am pleased to note that there is a non-Malay Tok Dalang in the group who spoke flawless Kelantanese, and look every bit Malaysian. It amazed me that there are other ethnic who appreciates the art and culture that Malaysia has.
And it reminded me to a very good friend of mine, Ey’de Lefty who is also from Kelantan. He also speak flawless Malay, and people seldom mistaken him as a Malay. We call him Aiman sometimes.
Am I being every bit racist here? So, you are Malaysian if you appreciate Malay culture, and speak Malay fluently?
I wouldn’t say that. I embrace other ethnic. I watch Chinese movies and dramas (where I can even understand Cantonese from those hours and hours of watching Chinese soaps), Hindustan 3-long hour movie, and even at one time, tried learning Mandarin. To me, I would like to proudly say that Malaysian is those who embrace other ethnic and culture, and proud to be at the very soil of Malaysia!
Have you wonder how Indonesian can be sooo.. Indonesian? Because they embrace the Indonesian culture! It doesn’t matter what race you are, Indonesian are typical Indonesin in every angle you see it.
Racist.. racist..
NOOO…
I do have this particular friend of mine back during the study days in Melbourne, who couldn’t speak any Malay or know of the Malay culture, but appreciate the little knowledge he knows of Malaysia. Having spent his whole childhood in Hong Kong doesn’t make him any less Malaysian. He could have stayed and work in Melbourne, but he wanted to come home and work in Malaysia, as he believes that there are a lot of things he can do for his proud nation. We were mentor and mentee of each other, both eager to learn about the other culture. He might not able to speak Malay, but he is Malaysian in every way.
When I went to a function in Malacca last month, we were asked to stand and sing the Negaraku. It surprised me when some could not. Maybe the famous u-tube version of Negaraku made more impact to them, as they then fallen to silent retreat.
When the minority outgrows the majority and these minorities does not appreciate Malaysia’a culture & heritage, what will the future hold for the nation?
Saturday, September 08, 2007
Bukan Salah Mereka?
After the posting yesterday, I had an interesting text from someone I knew a while ago. Little that I knew that this guy is married. Haha, an interesting good looking character from Indonesia. I should have known. 30-something year old guy, handsome, and reserved… That’s a typical married man.
The last time we met was sometime late last year, after I bravely interviewed him on his personal life. Then, I was made to know that he is married with 2 children, and the latest addition to his family is only 1 month old then. And interestingly, it was the last time we’ve ever spoken to each other until the text came yesterday. I guess he was embarassed then.
I woke up early this morning. Went down, had breakfast with my parent, listen to some guy talking about Budget 2008 (whom my parent later explained is our Finance Minister), and then switched on the tv to watch 3rd Generation, a Malaysian production that revolves around Mr Chan’s 3rd Generation family.
The morale of the movie was pretty obvious (and it was a great effort from the Malaysian film industry), but I was more intrigue by the relationship that Charlie Chan had. He is already married to a beautiful woman who is very loyal to him (played by the gorgeous Amber Chia), but also has a mistress who would support him even during tough times (played by the lovely Carmen Soo). Two fantastic characters are victim of the situation. They are in love with the same character, yet it is indeed not their fault that their pure hearts are madly in love with the same guy.
I just finished a book written by Sheila O’ Flanagan, “Yours Faithfully”. It’s about Sally Harper, a matured sofiscated woman who is very much in love with his husband of twenty years, and Iona Brannock, who married a handsome man he met on the beach for just a few months. Typical love story? Yeah, you could say that, except for the fact that they are married to the same man! Their life story collided, and these fantastic woman have to accept the fact that they are betrayed by the man they love. If only Christian can marry as Muslim does. Haha. But, would you mind sharing?
So, I look at all these women who are sharing husband… They are all fantastic in their own ways, and that’s why the husband chooses them. Maybe the first woman for comfort and provider, and the next one for purely good sex. You’d never know. But all in all, these women complete him.
So elaborative, yet I don’t know what’s the morale of this post.
Maybe…
It’s not their fault???
The last time we met was sometime late last year, after I bravely interviewed him on his personal life. Then, I was made to know that he is married with 2 children, and the latest addition to his family is only 1 month old then. And interestingly, it was the last time we’ve ever spoken to each other until the text came yesterday. I guess he was embarassed then.
I woke up early this morning. Went down, had breakfast with my parent, listen to some guy talking about Budget 2008 (whom my parent later explained is our Finance Minister), and then switched on the tv to watch 3rd Generation, a Malaysian production that revolves around Mr Chan’s 3rd Generation family.
The morale of the movie was pretty obvious (and it was a great effort from the Malaysian film industry), but I was more intrigue by the relationship that Charlie Chan had. He is already married to a beautiful woman who is very loyal to him (played by the gorgeous Amber Chia), but also has a mistress who would support him even during tough times (played by the lovely Carmen Soo). Two fantastic characters are victim of the situation. They are in love with the same character, yet it is indeed not their fault that their pure hearts are madly in love with the same guy.
I just finished a book written by Sheila O’ Flanagan, “Yours Faithfully”. It’s about Sally Harper, a matured sofiscated woman who is very much in love with his husband of twenty years, and Iona Brannock, who married a handsome man he met on the beach for just a few months. Typical love story? Yeah, you could say that, except for the fact that they are married to the same man! Their life story collided, and these fantastic woman have to accept the fact that they are betrayed by the man they love. If only Christian can marry as Muslim does. Haha. But, would you mind sharing?
So, I look at all these women who are sharing husband… They are all fantastic in their own ways, and that’s why the husband chooses them. Maybe the first woman for comfort and provider, and the next one for purely good sex. You’d never know. But all in all, these women complete him.
So elaborative, yet I don’t know what’s the morale of this post.
Maybe…
It’s not their fault???
Friday, September 07, 2007
Temanku Suami Orang
So, what do you think of married men?
I have been having this secret crush with one of the bosses here in my company. He's handsome, intelligent yet very young. What more can you ask for.
It made you wonder what he's like when he was young. If you knew him then, would you have done something about it?
So, what is it about married men that turn people on?
Good friend of mine, AS was involved with a married man once. She was on verge of breakdown, and had loose all interest to live. Then came this guy into the picture. This is guy is the type who would slide notes under your papers, who would text you those romantic words, the one who wouldn't turn up to the office as he couldn't bear not having the sight of you at the workstation. Married man easily turns you on, as they know how best to treat you.
Another good friend YK IS having a relationship with a married man. The feeling is mutual. Maybe because she's very successful now and her fiancée stupidly broke off the engagement, that she hasn’t found any interesting single guys. Why bother having another painful break up when you do have a guy who knows how to treat you right, and make you FEEL right?
So, the situation has not been very promising for these people. Would I succumb to the same path, God forbid!
While I would have crush here and there, I couldn’t imagine myself sharing the same guy, ever! But what would happen if I do? It’s complicated & hard, being in the position that I am now.
But A is still an option to explore, and B would be one of the top priority :p
I have been having this secret crush with one of the bosses here in my company. He's handsome, intelligent yet very young. What more can you ask for.
It made you wonder what he's like when he was young. If you knew him then, would you have done something about it?
So, what is it about married men that turn people on?
Good friend of mine, AS was involved with a married man once. She was on verge of breakdown, and had loose all interest to live. Then came this guy into the picture. This is guy is the type who would slide notes under your papers, who would text you those romantic words, the one who wouldn't turn up to the office as he couldn't bear not having the sight of you at the workstation. Married man easily turns you on, as they know how best to treat you.
Another good friend YK IS having a relationship with a married man. The feeling is mutual. Maybe because she's very successful now and her fiancée stupidly broke off the engagement, that she hasn’t found any interesting single guys. Why bother having another painful break up when you do have a guy who knows how to treat you right, and make you FEEL right?
So, the situation has not been very promising for these people. Would I succumb to the same path, God forbid!
While I would have crush here and there, I couldn’t imagine myself sharing the same guy, ever! But what would happen if I do? It’s complicated & hard, being in the position that I am now.
But A is still an option to explore, and B would be one of the top priority :p
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