Friday, February 15, 2008

Waiting to Exhale

It was supposed to start off as a pretty great day, not till I was reading the Sun today with its big header: Sign of Love.

Different people do different things to express their love. And this guy did it by putting up a giant billboard asking the girl to marry him. Cute. It only cost him RM40 K.

I spent my Valentine in the comfort of 3 other adorable friends. So, we were celebrating the Single Awareness Day, but they made it so much fun to be and feel single. Lefty was absolutely hilarious.

I had a chat about my personal enigma with Big Boss yesterday. I told him how everyone around me is getting hooked up, and I am still having a great deal of headache over finding the right one. They all give you the same advice and you couldn’t help but feel more let down.

I remember cheeky giving me some interesting quotes before, from the book ‘Waiting to Exhale’ that she was reading. Here it goes…

“Am I not a good catch or what?”
“We’re all good catches,” Bernadine said.
“Why are we all such good catches?” Savannah asked, leaning forward on her elbows and motioning for the other bottle of champagne.
“Because we’ve got good hearts and we’re good lays and we’re nice people. Isn’t that enough?” Bernadine said.
“Well, since you knew so damn much, why are we having such a hard-ass time meeting Mr. Wonderful?” Robin asked. Nobody had the answer to that one.


Yes, does anyone have the answer to that? People keep saying the same thing over and over again, and it is indeed non-reassuring. I wouldn’t say that I had lots of heartbreaks, but I did had a lot of almost… Period.

Few more interesting quotes:
“I know I’m not going to hear from him. And I hate the thought that I made a fool of myself. That I spilled my guts. Made my most intimate feelings known. How could somebody who acted so sincere be so insincere? How could he play with my feelings like this? I would never do this kind of shit to anybody. Never.”
- Waiting to Exhale, pg 368.

“It was my fault. I was the one who made the decision to open up my little heart. I was the one who said, ‘Here, go ahead and have some. Here, go ahead and take it.’ I’ve accepted responsibility for what for what I allowed to happen to me. I gambled. And I lost. But it wasn’t the end of the world.”
- Waiting to Exhale, pg 377.


Gosh.. It totally reflected what I’ve been feeling recently. Then this one:

“The ones that are good for us, we find dull and boring, and then we pick the assholes, the ones who won’t cooperate, the ones who offer us the most challenge and get our blood flowing and shit. Those are the motherfu*kers we fall in love with.”
- Waiting to Exhale, pg 324.

It got to me totally. And at the end, this is what HE said:
Quote from Grey’s Anatomy:
“Too often, the thing you want most is the one thing you can’t have. Desire leaves us heartbroken, it wears us out. Desire can wreck your life.” – Dr Meredith Grey


Yes, life was indeed wrecked.

5 comments:

SpidEy d'lEfty said...

Single Awareness Day? kidding me!!?!?! I din know we were actualy celebrating THAT!?!!?

The quote by Dr Meredith Grey is just too heavy.. what a reality...

Anonymous said...

Babe..

I pun tak tahu nak cakap apa. I guess, when it's your turn to get married, you will find the one who will take your breath away.

Eerrr.. wait a minute. That'd be my answer if u were to ask me about love.

But these days, I dont think love exists. Not the kind of "gasp, I'm in love" kinda thing.

I think, love is accepting the other person, just enjoying litttle moments together etc.

And you know what's funny? Men always come when you least expect it. So I'd say.. enjoy life.

I know the pressure is on. But hey, if u ask me, I think u're too young to settle down. There's just so many things to do.. so many places to go. So many new things to see and hold.

You think it's nice marrying early and having a baby an all? Wait till u get to my age.. and u see how many of those who married at an early age are now facing marital problems or divorced or involved in extra marital affairs. Now that is scary.

I think u should just live life to the fullest. At least, when u find the man (no matter how late), u can tell yourself that u've no regrets waiting all these while.

In al honesty, I know I'm waaay to old (by the company's standards lah!) and dah jadi anak dara tua dah. But hey, I've live life to the fullest. I go on trips with my friends, I am pursuing another degree and I have tonnes of things to do to keep me occupied all these years.

And yes, someone just proposed. But me being me is still waiting to see if this is for real. I dont want to jump into marriage just because everyone around me is married.

Anyway, u're a sweet girl. And nice. And gorgeous. Trust me, you'll get married someday. And then don't forget to invite me ok? So that I can say "I told you so" to your face.. hehehe..

Love you girl..
*cheekysmile*

Anonymous said...

i agree with ms *cheekysmile* here to a considerable extent about settling down, but i must say i have grave reservations about the whole "...i dont think (the gasp, im in love kinda) love exists..." part though 8-D

after all, going for the right person is one thing, but just merely going for the IDEA of settling down is another ;-)

and speaking of book quotes, here's something off a good piece ive recently read, pretty much about a guy who is hell bent on moving out of the 'single zone';

"...what happens if you build this up (marriage and family life) into the life-changing event you want it to be,
and find its not actually
changed your life for the better?..."

...perhaps being single for a bit isnt that much of a big deal afterall ;-)

-avoch-

Suhana Sidik said...

Guys,
Check this out.

“Women are like apples on trees, the best ones are on the top of the tree. The men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and don't want to get hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't so good but easy. So, the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top because they value quality.”


Men, on the other hand, are like a fine wine.

They begin as grapes... and it's up to women to stomp on them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with.

Isn't it just... great? That dear lefty, is the reality...

Anonymous said...

I just couldn't help but comment on this post. Just want to refute some of the points in the analogy between women and apples :)

I think this is a bit demeaning to the "rotten apples" in the ground. Why did they become rotten? Why did they fall to the ground? Here are my theories:

1) Maybe a guy climbed all the way to the top to get the "apple" but when he realized it did not seem as magnificent as it was -- just threw it to the ground.

2) Maybe the guy was juggling too many "good apples" that some slipped away and fell to the ground

3) No one climbed for the apple. It fell to the ground because it was already way ripe for picking.

I even admire the guys who take the rotten apples on the ground. They are giving them a second chance -- at being adored and appreciated by someone.

As for the analogy of men and fine wine -- couldn't agree more. Hehe. :p

And I must say, I enjoy reading your blog. You write interesting stuff. :)